If you want to know more about planning the stationery for your Wedding Day then look no further!
I am here to guide you through the various items needed for your Wedding Stationery on the big day.
Welcome to the 2nd in my mini series.
In the 1st post, I talked about why it can make such a difference having all your stationery made to match throughout your wedding planning – it really can make a big difference you know.
Here is the first instalment which will help you understand how important your wedding stationery is in capturing your guests imagination on the big day.
So what are all the different elements of daytime stationery? (let’s call it that, as some of them wont be used anywhere near the table!)
Here is a breakdown of some of the first few things you might need – more to follow soon!
Sometimes, it’s not all that clear upon arrival at the venue where your guests are meant to be going, depending on the type of venue of course – so why not have a lovely personalised sign pointing them in the right direction? I have seen many different styles of these over the years and I can easily make something that co-ordinates with your other stationery – depending of course on the style of your venue. There may also already be something arranged by the venue if it is something they consider your guests to need a little assistance with for whatever reason, perhaps there are additional rooms at the venue and a little guidance is needed.
Order of the Day:
These might be found on an easel or similar as your guests enter the venue, laid out clearly for all to see, it guides your eager guests to know what to expect, and when – what time can they expect a welcome drink, or the speeches to start for example? When should they be poised with their cameras at the ready to photograph your first dance? All of this information can be incredibly useful for those guests who are keen to find their space at the wedding breakfast table (or perhaps have small people to keep amused for the duration). These look lovely if you have them done to coordinate with your seating plan at either side of the wedding breakfast room as guests enter – or perhaps outside of it so they can read it while they’re waiting. Its also a nice idea to have something on your tables using the gorgeous 3 sided cards I have available, to give your guests all the info they need as they are sitting down listening to the speeches.
Ohhh, now here’s one of ‘those’ subjects. (You know, the ones that are likely to keep you awake at night!)
Are Table and Seating plans the same thing? Yes, it is just a different name.
If you want to be clear where each of your guests are sitting, which table, who they are next to, I would (and I usually do) call it a seating plan. This can be one of the particularly stressful areas of wedding planning, as if you really want your guests to mingle, or perhaps know some of them would prefer to be on a quieter table, you will probably have spent hours trying to figure this out. Read here for a few ways you can keep this simple. As this is probably the case, you don’t want all that work to be wasted when your guests arrive at the venue and battle to sit with their best friend because otherwise they won’t know anyone!
These look really beautiful when professionally done – carefully created to match your theme, all the guest names carefully spell checked and printed underneath the appropriate table name or number. It all helps everything to flow so perfectly on your special day, because who wants the guests trying to find a quick 5 minutes to check with you who they’ve been sat next to?
It can also help immensely if your guests have carefully chosen what they would like to eat on the day, nothing worse than pickled people as they all try to remember what main course they wanted 3 months ago when the invite came through.
I have seen this done so often, please save yourself a little time by not thinking you need to know who is sitting where when you plan out your invitation list. There may well be a proportion of your guests that aren’t able to make it, and you will have spent hours poring over these ideas only to have to rearrange everything again. You don’t have to know everything from day one of your wedding planning, you really don’t!
Table Name or Number Cards
These are essential if you have already gone to the trouble of carefully seating your guests on the seating plan.
It will make it much easier for them to find their way to the corresponding table (these can be named or numbered, depending on what you have decided, but here are some helpful suggestions if you need them).
So imagine you have 6 tables and the top table – you might not think its necessary to point out which is the top table, and that’s absolutely fine, but if you did want everything to fully coordinate then its another way you can just perfectly finish it off. For the remaining guest tables you will have decided which one is number 1, and may have a list of between 7 and maybe up to 12 guests sat there, when they see they are named on table 1, a prominently placed card on the actual table will help them find their way quickly and easily.
This may seem obvious but you would be surprised how many times I have this conversation at wedding fayres so I thought it would be helpful to write a little more about what exactly they are. It’s also worth noting at this point that you have choices as to whether they are done on a freestanding card which can sit just nicely in among beautiful centrepieces you will have carefully thought out, or you may prefer to have a single sided one that sits in a little holder and raises it proudly above everything to help them stand out a bit more. It can depend a lot on what is going on with the rest of your table, you don’t want it looking too ‘busy’ either.
Gosh. I have surprised myself with how much there actually is to say on this subject – there are still lots more items to talk about so I will continue it in the next couple of posts rather than overwhelm you with all the information at once. Does that sound like a good plan?
You can always contact me using the pretty sparkly box above if you need me in the meantime.
I will leave you to think a little more about how this could work with your dream wedding table layout – I might even be able to put you in touch with someone who can help with the décor if that is still in the planning!
I do have a brand new freebie in the making right at this moment so by the time I have written the next post – you will be able to get your hands on it with any luck! But just for now, if you haven’t already got your hands on the fab FREE wedding stationery checklist, pop your details over to me by clicking on the pretty picture beneath, and I will be right in touch with it for you.
I look forward to hearing from you soon.
Super sparkly love,
During the makeover process, I found that I started to think more and more about the idea of offering packages of stationery through the website.
I never found they worked particularly well in the past, but I have changed a lot of things about my business since then – for the better – and now am much more focused on making things easier for you – my lovely couples.
It can get really overwhelming when we sit down to talk about your wedding stationery.
I often have many questions to ask and there are plenty that you won’t know the answers to. So once we have spent the time customising the numbers for your wedding invitations – as these can vary soooo widely, and then simply add a package on top for your daytime stationery, it seems like it might just work!
When we sit down to go over all the details at my lovely local tea room to talk about your wedding stationery
(ooohhh, it really is rather lovely in there!)
It’s quite possible at this point you haven’t thought right the way through to what is happening on your guest tables just yet.
But I can easily tell you what will work well based on the information you have given me for your invitations.
It can vary depending on whether or not you have chosen a set menu, maybe you are having a glorious buffet or perhaps you have decided to let your guests choose their own menus from a selection.
There are many ways we can make this work my lovely, so don’t fret.
What I’m hoping to do is make this whole process much easier for you by guiding you with the most obvious choices for essential daytime stationery, and then you can add any other items on as you need.*
As a rough guide, when you get married in the lovely venues I often do wedding stationery for – like The Nottinghamshire, Shottle Hall, Swancar Farm, The Old Vicarage Boutique to name but a few, you will be having a sit down meal of some sort, and for this a seating plan is often the best way to avoid chaos.
Once you have a seating plan in place, you will more than likely need table name or number cards to go with it (need some inspiration for ideas? look no further), pointing your guests in the right direction for their table, and if you have gone to all the trouble to decide who sits next to who, it makes perfect sense to have the matching place cards with their names on – these can be personalised further with their individual menu choices if you wish.
So by creating a nice neat little add-on package of these beautiful things, we can create a picture perfect scene just for you, to continue your gorgeous theme right the way through from your wedding invitations to the big day itself. Your guests will be truly delighted to find that you have gone to all the trouble of matching your stationery perfectly, and when you walk into the room after tying the knot, you will feel the sparkly warmth of knowing that it is exactly as you pictured it.
I’m too excited to show you all the designs available to create this perfect vision, so let’s take a look!
And in case you’re wondering how much this is all going to cost – here is all the information you need about prices and packages too!
Of course if you have any questions at all about this, I’d LOVE to hear from you – add your comments below or click on my pic to pop me an email. Either way I look forward to hearing from you very soon!
With love and sparkles,
*You can also pay for your stationery in instalments, to make it even easier!
It’s May, the sun is out (and warm) at last!
I’m seeing and hearing from a lot of couples now who are ready to deal with…***drum roll***
The Seating Plan!
Now I know there will be plenty of you who will feel very anxious about this, so I just wanted to share a few ideas to make it easier for you!
First of all, I just want to say (easier to say than to do!) don’t panic about it.
The seating arrangements for your day don’t have to take on any formal set up – not if you don’t want them to.
I am often asked
‘Who is supposed to sit on the top table’?
The truth is nowadays with changing families, step parents, and far more couples who already have children getting married there is no ‘right’ way to do anything.
It’s YOUR day. So enjoy it.
If you are really struggling to work out who you reeeeally want to sit with you for your very first meal as husband and wife (the reason it is traditionally called a Wedding Breakfast’, then keep it simple. Traditionally
The bride sits with her new husband to her left and her father to the right, with her new mum in law next to him. The mother of the bride then sits next to her new son in law, with his father next to her. You can then have other members of the bridal party if there is room, bridesmaids, or the best man and an usher but these are really down to personal preference.
A sweetheart table, with just the two of you is a lovely modern and rather romantic way to begin your lives together.
So WHO is going to sit with WHOM?
There’s a nice easy way to plan this out.
1. Get a pad of post-it notes, and have to hand your completed guest list, after receiving all RSVPs.
2. Using a large sheet of paper/roll of lining paper or something equally large, sketch out roughly how many tables you can fit in your reception venue, or how many the wedding coordinator has advised you will need for your numbers (This varies from venue to venue but is usually a minimum of 8 guests per table and an absolute maximum of 12, depending on the size of the room!)
3. Using each post-it, one per guest write out their names and start to place them on the tables you think they are likely to be sitting on, with the people you would like to sit them next to.
4. As you change your mind or it becomes apparent there are too many on one table, you can simply chop and change the notes around to work with what you feel will be the most comfortable on your big day. Remember that it is your day and if you would feel unhappy to have 85 year old Auntie Ethel sat next to your work friends, then move her.
The beauty of this is you can switch and swap to your hearts content without re writing or getting frustrated with your slow computer or whatever method may otherwise drive you up the wall!
Take your time with this! It is the one part of planning the day that could make or break the atmosphere, and you won’t feel relaxed if you are fretting that your distant relatives aren’t mixing with any of the other guests – nothing wrong with mixing things up a bit
There’s no right or wrong here. It is a good thing to get so that it ‘feels’ right, but don’t make it something to cause you upset or anxiety, it isn’t really that big a deal. As long as you are together with the people you love on your special day and you have your new husband or wife by your side, what else is there?I hope you have found this helpful, would love to read your comments below if you would like to share them!
Many thanks, and happy planning!
The fun part of planning your wedding must surely be making it all about the two of you. There are so many ways to put a personal ‘stamp’ on your special day so here are a few of the ideas I have seen used by couples when arranging their seating plan…
Many couples just can’t decide what would ‘work’ as a name theme for their tables, and often end up taking the easy option of numbering them. But I think there are lots of fun ways to really make it your own…
1. Names of places you have been together, that make special memories – Paris, Rome, London, New York… or town names like Nottingham, Cambridge – maybe they mean something to you. It could be a fun game for your guests to work out why they are special to you.
2. Favourite colours or shades of a colour – Lilac, Purple, Aubergine, Lavender, Orchid…
3. Precious gems – Diamond, Pearl, Ruby. This could also work to represent how many years you see together in the future, aim for Diamond, always!
4. Numbers, but not the traditional kind! I once saw a table lay out that used numbers relative to the couple getting married and the guests had to guess what they meant… How many days they had been together, how many days between ‘going out’ and getting engaged, how many days they would spend on honeymoon, how many times they watched their favourite film… there are lots of fun ways to get this list together too.
5. How about names of your favourite couples – they could be celebrities, or special members of your family like grandparents, great grandparents, couples in favourite films or plays…
6. Sweet treats! Name your tables after your favourite sweets. you could also incorporate this theme into your favours. Love Hearts, Dolly Mixtures, Licorice Bootlaces…
7. If you’re a bit of a nature lover how about favourite country walks you’ve done together… Tissington Trail, Aysgarth Falls.. or National Trust properties you like…
8. Planets in the solar system – I have done stationery going one step further incorporating constellation names!
9. Your favourite films – Dirty Dancing would be up there on our list as its one of the first films we watched together.
10. Think about things that are relevant to you – it could be quite random, Mr Fairy is an electrical engineer so we would probably now end up with soldering and fuseboxes which might sound a little strange…..
11. Cars you have owned together or between you over the years – Ford Escort, Citroen Bx, Picasso…..Im sure there are far more interesting we tend to play it safe here but sports cars would be great!
12. Favourite animals – think about what kind you like and if their pictures would look cute if used to really theme your stationery.
13. This may sound a little macabre but it can work for you if you want to remember lost loved ones, you could use their names for your tables. I have seen it done.
14. Pets! – Names of pets you may have owned or favourite family pets.
15. Glamour – If you are going for a glamorous theme how about styles of shoe – Stiletto, Platform, Kitten Heel…
16. Sci Fi themed wedding – naming your tables after characters in Star Trek, or favourite sci fi films. Its a great way to get your other half involved if they are struggling to get excited with the wedding plans.
17. Favourite film or book – you could have characters from that.. what about Mr Darcy, Elizabeth Bennet, Georgiana Darcy…. or Bridget Jones and Daniel Cleaver!
18. Numbers, again.. but what about in a foreign language to add romance to the theme… Un, Deux, Trois
19. Bird watcher? No problem, think of your favourite birds, or best places to go bird spotting.
20. Favourite chocolates – now there’s a mouth watering theme with many favourites! My current favourite is And what a perfect ending to today’s list!