So you’ve booked your venue
and started thinking about all the things that are going to make your day special. In fact you can’t stop thinking about it and don’t seem to be able to hold a conversation without slipping it in there somewhere. You are not alone!
Here is a fun, light hearted look at some of the ‘wedding things’ that can turn the calmest nearlywed into a fire breathing Bridezilla!
(Genuinely not intended to be patronising, with years of experience in the wedding industry and now being a bride-to-be myself I completely understand this is a very real problem…..)
Make a plan and try to stick to it. You’re probably buzzing with ideas and you may feel like your head will explode if you don’t get them all out asap but don’t let it stress you out. If you achieve today’s or this week’s most important ‘to do’s’, give yourself a pat on the back and reward yourself with a bit of a break.
2. Time Out
Make quality time for you and your fiance together – without talking about the wedding. Try if you can to set aside one evening a week or arrange a ‘date night’ where the ‘W’ word is banned.
After all, a wedding is one day – your marriage will be for life.
Don’t become a bridal bore, especially when out for an evening. People are likely to ask ‘how is the wedding planning coming along’ and genuinely want to know, but try and limit your answer to maybe ten minutes. Remember there are other things going on in the world than your big day – however excited you may be. Note from me, since getting engaged almost 6 months ago, I have found that actually there are some details we want to keep as a surprise but people are just sooo nosey! haha, all that said, I do always make sure to ask whats happening in their worlds too.
4. Details, darling!
There are going to be lots of finer details that will make all the difference to you on your big day – but don’t sweat the small stuff! Remember that even though you know how you pictured your special day, others won’t know about those little tiny pieces of the jigsaw which may or may not go to plan. The important thing is to remember how you feel about marrying your sweetheart – not what shade of pink your table sprinkles are.
5. Girly time!
Make a night to spend with your friends and enjoy being ‘you’. If Bridezilla shows up at your BFF’s house you could lose out on a quality friend (at least for the time being). A good friend is for life not just to hold the train on your dress.
6. *Relax* and be HAPPY!
This is the most exciting thing you can plan for and you need to enjoy the journey. Make time to pamper yourself before the big day. Even if you think you will be far too busy to find time for then you should probably make time as a priority. Those last couple of days are undoubtedly easier for having had a nice de-stressing massage in the run up to the big day itself.
7. Accept help (when offered).
A problem shared and all that. A girly get together to ask your friends for a little help with the planning might be appreciated. As bad as a bridal bore is a bride whose friends feel they are no longer important enough to be involved. Speak with them honestly about whether they want to be involved – but try not to be offended if they say no too.
8. Review your plan if necessary.
If in the first few months you feel you’re not getting anywhere, then prioritise. Is deciding on what flowers to have in your centre piece more important than the colour scheme? I would say not. You don’t have to know everything about your big day over a year before. Some of these details could easily change with current trends and you might even change or get bored of your colour scheme along the way – it can start to feel a little familiar as you go along. If all’s going to plan – great, pat yourself on the back and relax for a bit! Another note from me – We will have had exactly 21 months in between the dreamy proposal (see here, if you haven’t watched the video, get the tissues ready!) and our big day by the time it comes around. These first few months have been brilliant but I am so looking forward to the wedding that times seems to go sooo slow when all i want is to marry my soulmate! Just make the most of this time if you have what seems like years in front of you before the wedding (more time to save precious pennies too).
9. Stop worrying!
There is quite simply no point in panicking about things that ‘might’ go wrong. Worrying will do you no good and can only take away from any enjoyment you may find in today. A happy bride is a healthy bride! This will show in your skin and in your eyes and smile too.
Choose one person you can trust implicitly to deal with anything you either can’t or don’t have the time to deal with. Explain to them from the start that its not for the faint hearted but that you do trust them enough to be your first choice – and that you would do the same for them.
11. Show your appreciation!
When friends or family (maybe members of the bridal party) go out of their way spending their own free time trying to find you the perfect killer heels or sweetheart necklines, be gracious enough to say thank you. Don’t just assume that an invitation to be your maid of honour is thanks enough.
12. Shop and spend wisely.
If you’re going to be planning your wedding for the next 2 years, don’t buy the entire contents of your local craft or homeware shop on day one. So many times I have seen brides trying to sell different styles of centrepiece because the fancy took them when they got up one Sunday morning. You’re not looking to open up a shop afterwards! If it’s a special or limited offer ‘must go today’ that can sound great but just remember – those silk chrysanthemums might look nice on your dining table but do you really want them at your wedding, on the most special day of your life?
13. Don’t torture yourself!
You booked your photographer, only to find they had a special offer on 3 months later. Or that your friend’s brother’s auntie paid less for them last year. It is a pity but it really won’t ruin your big day – you picked them for a reason. Know that they will do the job you have paid them for and ultimately you chose them, so you have got the supplier you wanted.
14. Choose your suppliers carefully.
Pick ones you can trust. Cheap work isn’t always good, and good work isn’t cheap! If you take your time and choose/use quality wedding suppliers (by recommendation is a good way) build a working relationship with them. They have earned their reputation by looking after their brides, not just by fulfilling an order/request. Your wedding is equally important to them. If you can trust them to produce your wedding favours to the standard you want, to shoot the photos you asked for, to make the eye-catching, mouth-watering cake you saw in a magazine, then there’s a whole lot less for you to worry about. Have faith in them.
15. Yours isn’t the only wedding!
A little goes a long way – be courteous to keep them on side. That late night amendment to the wording on your invites is super important to you, but emailing it at 10pm, then texting at 7am and ringing at 9am on the dot to check it has been received (this happened to me on occasion) is probably pushing the boundaries a little. If you have trust in them from the start all will be well.
Daily emails hounding for more and more updates may be a little extreme. Also be aware of the seasonal shifts when trying to contact them. An unanswered phone call mid August to a photographer for example doesn’t mean they have gone out of business, but they may simply be at another wedding! May to September can be incredibly busy for many wedding suppliers often working between 10 and 14 hour days – that was probably one of the reasons you chose them, because they are good at what they do. Please just bear that in mind when you’re about to post a rant on their facebook page.
16. Just breathe!
If for whatever reason your planning does go belly up, remember the 7-11 technique. Maybe your venue has double booked you, or changed hands and raised the cost of your wedding package (this happened to a handful of my brides one year). Whatever the case, it will all be okay in the end – as they say, everything happens for a reason.
Stop thinking for a moment, breathe in through your nose to the count of 7, and out for the count of 11. This decreases carbon dioxide levels in the blood (while also giving you something else to focus on), reducing anxiety and panic attack type feelings. Or you could try meditation (I meditate every day, just for a few minutes…it helps keep me sane!) or yoga for relaxation and a little escape time.
17. Contain your ideas.
Either get yourself a pretty box file or a small treasure chest type box – something pretty. Use it both as storage and as a symbolic tool for your mind. When you are planning you can rummage through everything in there to get your ideas together, when you feel like you’ve had enough, literally just put everything back in the box and close the lid. When the box is closed, you don’t need to be thinking about whats in it, giving you a little bit of space and a clearer, calmer mind.
18. And so to bed.
I love the quote ‘Never let the sun set on an argument’. In the same way, make a pact with your significant other not to discuss the wedding as the very last or very first topic of the day – even if you’re thinking about it! Okay, hands up time, I probably did this for quite a while when we first started planning – I am just sooo excited! But it has calmed down a little for the time being, whew!
19. Hold on a minute.
If things go wrong (as they sometimes can) with any of your suppliers, your venue, or any of your plans, or if they make a mistake, don’t pick up the phone to a friend or rant it out on social media – make a point to resolve it first. Contact the involved party and try to find a solution – they should be keen to do this anyway. The more you think or talk about the problem the bigger it will become and if you haven’t first tried to find a way around it then it can never be fixed. If they don’t know you have a problem they can’t help.
20. Last but not least
Lastly, if planning your wedding seems to have taken over your life, find yourself a new hobby, go for long walks with your fiancé or join the gym together. Focus on something you can continue to do when the sun has set on your wedding day, you return from your honeymoon and seem to have a whole lot of time to spare! It could save the potential anti-climax from all those months of planning.
And of course – Good luck from myself and my fiance Bruce – we are right there beside you as we plan our own wedding. Ahhhh
For a while now I’ve been pondering how I can keep my timeless wedding stationery offerings current while still staying true to my style of work.
I do find it difficult because my favourite designs are so simple and elegant, but nobody just wants to keep seeing the same stuff, do they?
I have access to a wide range of laser cut invitation designs, pre cut with varying options of colours and finishes. They are absolutely beautiful, but rather than offer every single design in the range I am going to slowly introduce a few at a time.
Such as this one, aptly entitled ‘Winter Wonderland’.
To start with, I’ve decided to adapt some of the ones already available on my site, while adding to with another couple of truly stunning designs. They are readily available in the on-trend colours of pinks, greys and neutrals as well as super sparkly options and I will be adding my own twist to them as well (of course).
Since I began making cards what seems like many moons ago, I never liked the idea of everything being copied so I never made any 2 cards the same (apart from when I made my own Christmas cards to send, I still do that but they are getting simpler as time goes by) which is why I always like to offer my own personal ‘tweak’ to the designs that come from the manufacturer.
I will be looking to add something a bit more ‘wow’ to designs such as this one, Pretty Petal
I will also be adding in various options for how we can incorporate these into other elements of your stationery, such as evening invites or daytime stationery so stay tuned for that. Ohhh, while I think of it, have you seen my blogs on Daytime stationery? I wrote a whole series just talking about the various elements of daytime wedding stationery – check out number 1 here.
Ian & Leanne’s post box was styled using elements from the invitation mentioned above.
I can’t wait to show you some of these and would love to know what your thoughts are, pop me a comment at the bottom of this blog, that would be wonderful.
I will be back soon with an update,
In true stationery addict style
(that’s me!) , the gorgeous books I create are offered with crisp clean pages all ready for your guests to sign their names and perhaps leave a wedding day wish for you both on your special day.
After your wedding day is done, you may find amusing anecdotes and all manner of things inside these – but it all adds to recreating the atmosphere from your wedding day in years to come. Always decorated to fully coordinate with your other items it just sets the gift table off nicely and again can be a fab way to keep your guests occupied as you slip away for a few photos, or in between courses at the table (watch out for the soup starter getting spilled on it though!)
There are LOADS of other options for these now if you don’t want the more traditional style of stationery.
You can have a ‘drop-box’ style, which is left to fill up tokens of some sort written with your guests messages and builds a gorgeous picture of the lovely people you shared your day with. You could have a ‘wishing tree’ where lovely messages are hung on it for you to read later, ohh I could go on and on but I am sure if you are keen on pinterest at all you will have seen lots of ideas for these too.
Just remember you are more than welcome to drop me a line if you have any questions about this and so much more.
Before I disappear let me tell you a little about Wedding Post boxes.
I like to use real life examples where possible, so here is one for you. At a family wedding some years ago, the majority of the guests were family. The couple received some amazing monetary gifts, it really was quite astounding. 2 years later, the bride’s sister married and had her reception at the same venue, a similar group of family members attended but she was very shocked not to have received anything at all from one relative in particular, knowing how generous they had been with her sister. It later came to light that they had in fact been gifted with something similar but unfortunately it went missing at the wedding reception.
If you don’t want something like this happening then you need somewhere safe for your guests to place their cards while you party the night away! This can be done inexpensively with a beautifully coordinated decorated and personalised post box available in different styles which would sit beautifully on the gift table on near the cake table is also a good spot for it. Why not pop your guest book right next to it?
When you have spent so much time planning your wedding (I find many of my couples spend at least 18-24 months and many of them even longer) it can be something you imagine for so long that you really want that moment to feel just perfect. As you enter the wedding breakfast room and see the room you have dreamed about taking shape perfectly, a real ‘ta-dah’ moment, you will be so pleased you made the choices that you did and knowing it all coordinates just perfectly without you having to get ‘too’ involved take away some of that stress. I love helping my couples with this piece of their puzzle so why not get in touch and see if I can help your daytime stationery dreams come true?
I have absolutely loved writing this series
to help you understand a little more about the different stationery options available for your wedding, it has also given me a lot of exciting ideas for my own wedding in November 2020. (As I wrote this last post a magical idea popped into my head for our guest book so I quickly scribbled it down before I forgot!)
Check out the epic blog post about wedding stationery packages – click here to understand more about why they can be such a time saver when planning your wedding, not to mention completely co-ordinating everything from day one of your planning!
In the coming weeks I will be sharing more about the other packages available as they are released properly into the wedding world.
It’s all here to help you so make use of it – and remember to ask me any questions at all!
Just pop me an email.
I can’t wait to hear from you,
(also a blushing bride-to-be)
If you are just catching up, make yourselves comfortable as I have lots of hints & tips to share with you about Table/Wedding Breakfast/Daytime stationery.
In the first of the series here, I talked about having all your stationery made to match throughout your wedding planning – it really can make a big difference to the finished feel of the room and the impact on your guests too.
In number 2 of this series here we looked at the seating plan and any matching name or number cards and why they help everything to flow beautifully on the day.
The 3rd in this series (see this one here) was all about place cards and what format they should take, the options you have and how they can help your guests find their way around.
In today’s issue we are looking at menus and the different ways in which you can display these – really what are they all for anyway?
Make yourself comfortable as we work our way down this list, it might answer a question that’s been bothering you!
Here we have another one with various options, and it can also depend on your venue’s offerings or personal choices as to whether or not you have opted for a la carte or pre-selected the menu for them.
For a set menu – a nice simple option which will allow them to specify their dietary requirements such as vegetarian or gluten free for example (a must in this day and age!) a single card or 2 on each guest table can work really well, just offering guests a quick reminder of what’s available to eat today. It looks so lovely on the table (one of my brides simply called hers ‘Our Perfect Menu’) when coordinating with your other stationery and décor and can give them something to talk about too.
If you have gone to the trouble of a menu tasting which you then sent to your guests with a few options, a single menu card on the table serves little purpose. What you can do though, is use their place cards to serve as a little reminder what they ordered.
If you really want to personalise it you can print individual menu sheets for each guest, perhaps to be wrapped in their serviette/napkin (check with your venue or décor provider if they can set these up for you first) and tied up with a pretty ribbon or anything which matches your theme.
3 sided table cards
These are a fantastic idea for several reasons and are always popular at wedding fayres.
With 3 sides (sort of like a toblerone but standing on its end) you can make the most of the space on your table without cluttering it up with too many things.
Over the years I have had these used in many different ways but you could choose from: Table name/number, Guest list reminder for the table, Menu details, Order of the Day, A lovely quote for them to remember your special day, or you could get really quirky and put fascinating facts about each of your guests to break the ice a bit if you feel the need to. I like the idea of some kind of quiz, keeping your guests occupied by getting them to answer questions about you as a couple and see who REALLY knows you.
The thing about the way I work is there are no rules for what you have on your stationery, availability permitting. If you need them to have different things according to the tables that is absolutely fine. It does work well if they all coordinate though and the 3 sided cards can be a great way to save space and money too.
They definitely work out cheaper than having individual menu cards, place cards and table number cards so why not have a think about if they could work for you? Remember they are also included in the Beautiful Wedding Breakfast package which keeps things nice and simple when planning your wedding breakfast room. Click on the link for more info!
Do remember to consider what else is going on your tables and maybe have a chat with whoever is organising these for you to make sure they would sit well alongside everything else.
It seems like there is a lot to think about, but truthfully its got to be exactly as you want it to be. If you have this vision of how you want your tables to look on the day but aren’t sure how best to achieve that – pop me a message and I’ll see what I can do to help! I’ve been working in this industry for years now and seen all kinds of ideas in that time.
Have a good look around and see what inspires you and let’s go from there!
How much table stationery is too much?
Let me help you decide what you actually need by talking you through each item individually.
Welcome to the 3rd in my mini series.
In the 1st post here, I talked about why it can make such a difference having all your stationery made to match throughout your wedding planning – it really can make a big difference you know.
In the 2nd post here, I began to talk you through your table plan and the name or number cards you can have to make everything flow so much smoother, as well as a couple of other pretty bits that can help too.
Now we’re going to look at place cards – let’s see why they can make such a difference.
Place name cards
This one sounds simple but again there are a few options for these so I will talk you through it.
If you have a really clear idea in your head who is sitting next to who at your tables, as you may well have, (maybe you started sketching this out before your invites were even finished?) then you will want to make sure they all sit where you originally intended.
A beautiful coordinated place name card will just finish off the picture-perfect vision of your wedding breakfast tables.
It will be clear as crystal to your guests where they are supposed to sit, and look beautiful too.
But what do you have on them?
First or full names? And do you need any other details on them?
There’s no right or wrong answer to this, the choice really is yours – often it works well to have their full names on the seating plan and then just their first names (or sometimes nicknames are used) for the place card – it can look much less cluttered.
You can have a little extra detail under their name such as your names and the date if you want – and the design allows it (there’s not always a huge space to fit this on).
If you really need to, and to save hassle you can have personalised menu choices printed on the reverse or on the inside of the card ( I offer this option for an extra cost) – this can save a lot of stress on the day for both guest and venue.
The style I offer as standard is the is a freestanding one
(also known as tent-fold, like in this image here)
but you can get personalised name tags to wrap around cutlery, acrylic ones (available elsewhere) are all the rage at the moment as another idea, or you could have their names on favours (see later for more about those) or have it added onto individual menu cards (again, more details to follow) for a lovely personal touch.
I am open to looking at any solution that works with the rest of your table décor, the packages of stationery I have crafted work really well, especially the ‘Fabulous Favourites’ which gives you the best selling items in my collections as a nice, neat bundle. I will be writing about these in the coming weeks as each individual package is ready to launch. Exciting stuff!!!
For now I will love you and leave you, but don’t forget you can drop me a line any time to chat things through.
and Bruce xx
If you want to know more about planning the stationery for your Wedding Day then look no further!
I am here to guide you through the various items needed for your Wedding Stationery on the big day.
Welcome to the 2nd in my mini series.
In the 1st post, I talked about why it can make such a difference having all your stationery made to match throughout your wedding planning – it really can make a big difference you know.
Here is the first instalment which will help you understand how important your wedding stationery is in capturing your guests imagination on the big day.
So what are all the different elements of daytime stationery? (let’s call it that, as some of them wont be used anywhere near the table!)
Here is a breakdown of some of the first few things you might need – more to follow soon!
Sometimes, it’s not all that clear upon arrival at the venue where your guests are meant to be going, depending on the type of venue of course – so why not have a lovely personalised sign pointing them in the right direction? I have seen many different styles of these over the years and I can easily make something that co-ordinates with your other stationery – depending of course on the style of your venue. There may also already be something arranged by the venue if it is something they consider your guests to need a little assistance with for whatever reason, perhaps there are additional rooms at the venue and a little guidance is needed.
Order of the Day:
These might be found on an easel or similar as your guests enter the venue, laid out clearly for all to see, it guides your eager guests to know what to expect, and when – what time can they expect a welcome drink, or the speeches to start for example? When should they be poised with their cameras at the ready to photograph your first dance? All of this information can be incredibly useful for those guests who are keen to find their space at the wedding breakfast table (or perhaps have small people to keep amused for the duration). These look lovely if you have them done to coordinate with your seating plan at either side of the wedding breakfast room as guests enter – or perhaps outside of it so they can read it while they’re waiting. Its also a nice idea to have something on your tables using the gorgeous 3 sided cards I have available, to give your guests all the info they need as they are sitting down listening to the speeches.
Ohhh, now here’s one of ‘those’ subjects. (You know, the ones that are likely to keep you awake at night!)
Are Table and Seating plans the same thing? Yes, it is just a different name.
If you want to be clear where each of your guests are sitting, which table, who they are next to, I would (and I usually do) call it a seating plan. This can be one of the particularly stressful areas of wedding planning, as if you really want your guests to mingle, or perhaps know some of them would prefer to be on a quieter table, you will probably have spent hours trying to figure this out. Read here for a few ways you can keep this simple. As this is probably the case, you don’t want all that work to be wasted when your guests arrive at the venue and battle to sit with their best friend because otherwise they won’t know anyone!
These look really beautiful when professionally done – carefully created to match your theme, all the guest names carefully spell checked and printed underneath the appropriate table name or number. It all helps everything to flow so perfectly on your special day, because who wants the guests trying to find a quick 5 minutes to check with you who they’ve been sat next to?
It can also help immensely if your guests have carefully chosen what they would like to eat on the day, nothing worse than pickled people as they all try to remember what main course they wanted 3 months ago when the invite came through.
I have seen this done so often, please save yourself a little time by not thinking you need to know who is sitting where when you plan out your invitation list. There may well be a proportion of your guests that aren’t able to make it, and you will have spent hours poring over these ideas only to have to rearrange everything again. You don’t have to know everything from day one of your wedding planning, you really don’t!
Table Name or Number Cards
These are essential if you have already gone to the trouble of carefully seating your guests on the seating plan.
It will make it much easier for them to find their way to the corresponding table (these can be named or numbered, depending on what you have decided, but here are some helpful suggestions if you need them).
So imagine you have 6 tables and the top table – you might not think its necessary to point out which is the top table, and that’s absolutely fine, but if you did want everything to fully coordinate then its another way you can just perfectly finish it off. For the remaining guest tables you will have decided which one is number 1, and may have a list of between 7 and maybe up to 12 guests sat there, when they see they are named on table 1, a prominently placed card on the actual table will help them find their way quickly and easily.
This may seem obvious but you would be surprised how many times I have this conversation at wedding fayres, so I thought it would be helpful to write a little more about what exactly they are. It’s also worth noting at this point that you have choices as to whether they are done on a freestanding card which can sit just nicely in among beautiful centrepieces you will have carefully thought out, or you may prefer to have a single sided one that sits in a little holder and raises it proudly above everything to help them stand out a bit more. It can depend a lot on what is going on with the rest of your table, you don’t want it looking too ‘busy’ either.
Gosh. I have surprised myself with how much there actually is to say on this subject – there are still lots more items to talk about so I will continue in the next couple of posts rather than overwhelm you with all the information at once. Does that sound like a good plan?
You can always contact me using the pretty sparkly box above if you need me in the meantime.
I will leave you to think a little more about how this could work with your dream wedding table layout – I might even be able to put you in touch with someone who can help with the décor if that is still in the planning!
Just a reminder, if you haven’t already got your hands on the fab FREE wedding stationery checklist, pop your details over to me by clicking on the pretty picture beneath, and I will be right in touch with it for you.
I look forward to hearing from you soon.
Super sparkly love,