When you first start planning your wedding invites, you probably don’t think straight away about the wording that will go inside it.
But with years of experience I do know that it is so important to get this right.
So I wanted to spend some time today talking you through the ins and outs of wording your wedding invites. There is a lot to think about, so grab yourself a cuppa, get comfy and take notes if necessary.
There are a few things to consider here.
First of all, who goes first?
This is a 2 parter.
The first thing I want you to think about is how do people know you as a couple? Are your names shortened? Are you Bruce & Jacqui (using mine and my boyfriend’s name as an example here), Jacqueline & Bruce? Or something else?
Much of the time, couples are talked about in a certain way, it’s a funny little thing and can depend on which family or friends group it comes from but when you send your invites, the names on the front of your exquisitely crafted pocketfold will be the first thing they see. So you want them to recognise it instantly, the excitement for your big day often begins right here. You may have initials, so remember to put them the right way round.
The second part of this is what happens inside the invitation.
The same rules may not necessarily apply here. Traditionally, the bride’s parents paid for the wedding, so their names would go at the beginning, with the bride’s full name minus her family or surname going first, followed by her fiance’s full name. Both would include any middle names that may not ordinarily be used (this usually raises an eyebrow or two).
Mr & Mrs Tom & Sarah Chamberlain
Request the honour of the presence of
At the marriage of their daughter
Helen Marie to Phillip Peter Carrington
Or you might choose to begin with something a little more inclusive for both families, such as:
‘Together with their parents Helen Marie Chamberlain & Phillip Peter Carrington Would like to invite……’
When I sit down with my couples at a consultation we talk about everything to do with their invites and they are given various wording choices from the more traditional (see above) to something like this more modern one:
Helen Marie Chamberlain & Phillip Peter Carrington would be delighted if ………………………………………………………………………. would join them to celebrate their marriage at…
There are some lovely verses that can be used, more light-hearted fun ones and I do need to say it is really important that what you choose reflects your personalities. You want both of ‘you’ to shine through, so your recipients know absolutely that your special day will totally have your stamp on it.
If you are getting married for the first time, you want it to be the biggest statement you can ever make. Or perhaps it is your second time around, and this time you are doing your day, your way, rather than following the more traditional rules you did when you got married before. It isn’t something you are going to want to rush, so take your time to get this right. For more inspiration, check out my brochure with wording ideas here.
Hopefully it goes without saying that there are several important details that must be included on your wedding invite wording.
A/ Names – both of your names, and your parents if you are going for the more traditional option. B/ Wedding Date – remember to put what day of the week it is. C/ Wedding Time – can be formatted however you wish – 13.00 or 1pm? The choice is yours. If you are being a little more formal the 24 hour clock works well. D/ Wedding Venue (and reception, especially if they are different). E/ Wedding Breakfast– try and remember to include if a wedding breakfast follows – there’s nothing worse as a guest than not knowing what to expect. I had one couple who had to make a last minute alteration to their invites because it said the wedding was at 1pm and was followed by an Evening reception. That’s all very lovely but what happens in between? Where are they supposed to go, will they get a drink? Try not to have too much text but remember the vitally important information.
My couples often choose something like:
‘Drinks and Wedding Breakfast to follow’ Or Followed by a Wedding Breakfast and Evening Reception at….
You may have spent some time drafting your guest list, this is usually the case, it might have been painful and you are relieved you now have your short list.
So when it comes to wording your invites, be clear on who – specifically – is invited, if sending to a household.
You don’t have to have guest names printed (although with my invites, guest names are printed as standard, with no additional charge) but if you opted for the sort of wording that’s a bit more relaxed, for example something like this:
Helen Marie Chamberlain & Philip Peter Carrington Request the pleasure of your company at the celebration of their marriage
Stop for a minute and think, who is ‘your company’ referring to?
***real life story-time***
I always use the example of an invite I received a couple of years ago for a family wedding. Now you would think working in this industry and especially in the job I do, that it would have been automatically understood but on this occasion I was a little embarrassed.
An invitation, with the envelope addressed to me arrived. It was for a wedding celebration after an overseas ceremony. Excitedly I began making plans for myself and my boys (I was a single mum at the time) to travel down south and find somewhere to stay so we could party the night away with the family.
My boys don’t actually enjoy parties that much as it happens, but I chatted to my mum and then it was mentioned in passing that ‘oh, there are no kids invited, their names weren’t on it were they?’. Well, no, but because there wasn’t anything to tell me that it was adults only I (again, how did I manage this in my job!) assumed it was for ‘us’.
Not a problem, a weekend letting my hair down was actually just what I needed so my plans changed a little and we all had a great time, no children required. (as you can see from the following pic!)
So you can see that it’s actually vitally important you either specify names, or make allowances for the fact that some may bring their children, some may not. In either case, it’s important to be clear, especially if you are sending to a household that maybe has older children living there, there are all kinds of scenarios for that these days.
If you are specifically stating there will be no children, here are a couple of simple one-liners you can use:
‘Due to restrictions in numbers, children are not included on the invite
‘Children are not invited to the whole day’
‘I am afraid it is a no kiddies event so please let your hair down, relax and celebrate by having a drink or 2, or 3…’
It can be helpful to your guests to mention on your wedding invitation is what time the evening ‘do’ is likely to start. This will help your guests but can also take up valuable space if you are struggling, in which case include it on the gift information or elsewhere within the invitation. And remember, when calculating how many invites you need, you only need evening invites for those not already invited to the day – see my 10 top tips here for more advice on that subject.
I realise there is a lot to consider here, and this is a much longer article than I had originally intended because there is so much to say – I haven’t even got started on other information to be included so I will do additional posts on those, to give you time to think about how you can make your wording work best for your special day.
I am always happy to help if you are trying to include something and don’t know how. Drop me a line if you have a quick query, or to find out more about my tea-room consultations where we can get all of this sorted for your big day.
I have also written some of the gift poems in my brochure so have a look for ideas there too – I am sure we can find something that will work perfectly for you. For now, I have LOTS of sparkles to be working on so I will scoot. Much love,
I know you have probably been looking around for a while at the various options for inviting your guests to the wedding.
It can be a bit overwhelming when you see so many different ideas, how would it all work with what you NEED for your wedding though?
You really just need to know what you are looking at will be suitable, don’t you?
Let’s take a look at Pocketfolds, for a minute.
They are kind of like a ‘folder’, of the most beautiful sort, with a pocket to keep all your additional information safe.
They will often have a beautifully decorated ‘flap’ or enclosure of some kind, which is even more exciting because you can’t even guess what it might look like inside.
There are lots of different layouts and ways to present the first peek of your special day, and when guests receive them, they are certain to be thinking a lot more about your wedding.
Rather than ‘just’ a card (there is nothing wrong with sending these, if they are well made!) the additional info cards can then be kept to one side when the gorgeous keepsake has been tidied away (which will happen eventually, I’m sorry to say). The pocket is perfect to store the info cards, which might have the following information on them:
An RSVP card
A Gift List
Menu card/Response to Menu requests
Venue Booking information
Directions (I am finding this one less and less nowadays, with just a postcode being enough for most people – although if the reception is held somewhere other than the wedding venue, it can come in useful)
Additional information about Music choices for the reception, transport options, flight details if getting married overseas.
Looking at that list you might now be thinking Whaaaat? How many inserts? But you won’t need all of them, you might not even want to have a gift list (I often find this with my couples, but once the lovely poems available to choose from are read at an appointment this can change too) and I always say to my couples there is no MUST include. And I always suggest printing on both sides, which can help save unnecessary inserts and postage costs – it all adds up!
Your choices for all of these are going to be quite personal to you, depending on what you have for your wedding.
The thing about Pocketfold style invitations is they are such a nice neat way to send all the information, and your guests will undoubtedly feel like you really want them there, having gone to all the trouble of having invitations like these made specially.
When you get one of these sent to you it really does feel very special – I received one myself, for a friend’s wedding a few years ago – I had actually made it as well so that was a bit surreal but there you go. It really was a lovely thing to get from the postie instead of a bill! I’m perhaps a little bit biased as pocketfolds tend to be the style of invite I make the most. But I think that says a lot about how popular they are.
They are beautiful, practical and perfectly neat all at once. They can be personalised, to match in with your colour scheme and any themes you might have too – What a great way to announce to your friends and loved ones that you are tying the knot and you would love them to be there!
It’s amazing how many things I thought of once I started writing this list, which is by no means an exhaustive list – and there will be many things I could add to it – but for today here is an A-Z of wedding stationery to help you with your planning.
A Activity Packs: Treat younger guests to a beautifully coordinated activity pack on the day to keep them occupied during speeches and give mum & dad a break!
B Bespoke: If looking for something a bit more unique, be sure to find a designer by recommendation who specialises in this sort of work, it can be very time consuming and not all stationers will be able to create all different types of design.
C Catering: Do your invites need to include the option for menu choices? Be sure to allow enough time for this when stating the RSVP date. Find out if your stationer can accommodate printing these on your daytime stationery too. And remember you need to have a menu tasting before confirming the meal choices, it all takes extra time.
D DJ: Does your DJ have the option for guests to choose songs for the evening reception? Be sure to include this info on your RSVP cards.
E Embellishments:Are your invites heavily embellished? Remember to allow for this when posting them out, it will cost you more than a standard stamp, are they protected enough in the post? Nothing worse than arriving in a flimsy or damaged envelope.
F Favours: It can finish your table settings beautifully to have your beautiful decorated favour boxes to match the rest of your stationery. It’s all in the detail!
GGuest Book: You don’t have to have a traditional ‘book’ for your guests to leave you messages, there are lots of ways you can get your guests signing, maybe a large signing board with a photo, signing snapshots from the photo booth, a wishing tree. Be creative.
H Honeymoon: Struggling for ideas when guests ask what to buy you? Why not use a fun rhyme to ask for donations towards your honeymoon? See here for more ideas.
I Inviting: Your invites truly set the scene for your special day so make it count. Invite your guests in a way they will remember forever. Get them excited about your big day from the beginning.
J June: It used to be one of the most popular months to get married but anything goes these days. If you are getting married in a popular month, such as summer holiday season be sure to book your suppliers far enough in advance, and prepare to wait a little longer for them to get back to you during these busy periods too.
K Keepsakes: It’s lovely to have something from your stationery you can remember after the big day, order yourselves a spare invitation or Order of Service to add to your memory box.
L Lettering: It’s all the rage, have your stationery carefully hand written or signage for the venue carefully hand drawn by a reputable supplier.
M Marriage: Whatever you do, don’t forget what this day is all about. It’s about the 2 of you, together forever, sometimes that can get a little bit lost in the planning!
N Name change: Remember when giving your stationer your seating plan details that the tiny detail of your new married name (if relevant) needs to be taken into account! It amazes me how many couples forget about this when preparing their seating plans.
O Order of Service: Not essential but particularly helpful if you are having a church wedding, check with your church if they have a template you can use if having them specially made, equally useful to note if having a ceremony at the venue, a framed Order of the day to match your seating plan can give your guests a little guidance to what happens when, and looks beautiful too.
P Planning: Ask your stationer if they have any way of helping you keep everything organised? I send out a free spreadsheet to contain all the info you might need in relation to your guest list and responses.
Q Quotes: Find some lovely quotes that are relevant to both of you to use on your table stationery, it looks so lovely and makes it all the more romantic (or funny if that is more your style). It really adds both your personalities to the proceedings.
R RSVPs: If you are having these sent back to you by post, do you need to provide your own envelopes or are they included in the cost of your invites? Something for you to consider. Allow plenty of time for the RSVP date to overlap/you to alter your guest list if needed.
S Seating Plan:Don’t waste hours figuring this out from the beginning of your wedding planning journey. Your time is valuable, wait until the RSVPs have been returned and you have a better idea who is actually attending, it could save you a lot of stress.
T Tradition: The age-old tradition of invites being addressed from the bride’s parents is long gone. Some couples still do this, but it stemmed from the parents being the ones who paid for everything, and these days that often is not the case. Make sure your wording in your invites reflects both your personalities and feels right for you both. There are many options out there. Here are examples of the wording used my some of my lovely couples.
U Underestimating: Don’t be fooled into thinking that needing to send invites 4 months before means you only need to sort them a couple of weeks before that, this is often not the case and disappointment can cause additional delays and stress. Allow more time for this than you may think you need, a good stationer will advise on realistic timescales and not offer empty promises.
V Value for money:Good work ain’t cheap, cheap work ain’t good! Be sure to check what you are getting for your money before booking to get something made that looks too good to be true, and make sure you have seen the work first hand as well. (a good clue is don’t opt for anyone who spells it stationary…)
W Wedding Party: Have your VIPs, eg parents, bridesmaids and best man all been included on the invite list?
X Xtras: Have you considered everything you need in the costs quoted for your stationery? Guest names or other additional printing, spare invites, personalised menus, addressed envelopes, delivery to your home address or the venue on the big day if relevant? Be clear what is included and what is additional to your quote.
Y Yonks: Be a little wary of any supplier who seems to take an age to get back to you, yes they may be busy but you deserve to be made to feel as though you and your big day are important to them.
Z Zilla: Keep calm, count to ten and don’t unleash Bridezilla (more tips about that here) if anything doesn’t go to plan. Always keep in contact with a supplier if you have any doubts, they will be happy to reassure you if they are worth their salt.
with layers of beautiful card with soft, romantic curves and shimmering sparkle.
Carefully hand decorated with refined loops made from the finest quality satin ribbon and finished with a fabulous sparkling heart embellishment – not too big to overpower this gorgeous invitation but big enough to make a statement.
You can, of course replace this with your choice of embellishment, from a carefully hand-picked selection here. And while you’re at it, why not choose a colour of ribbon that works perfectly with your chosen theme.
I adore the simplicity of this invitation suite
which can be used throughout your wedding stationery, from Save the Date cards, to Orders of Service, Table stationery and Thank You’s ready to send after the big day.
A Luxury framed seating plan in this design will look so welcoming to your guests when placed at the entrance to your wedding breakfast room. It really does set the scene for a very special day indeed.
A crisp,square white linen pocketfold, with pearlescent card layers and dazzling diamante detail, complete with 2 envelopes – one for sending and the other for your RSVPs to be returned – this design is an absolute must if you are looking for elegant perfection and classic style.
A stylish, beautiful design for the bride and groom who prefer simple, understated elegance.
As always, any questions, please don’t hesitate to drop me a line, Much love, Jacqui xx
Thank you so much Jacqui for doing an amazing job! Also thank you for putting up with Joe as he can be a handful!! The day would not have been possible without you!! xxxx Amie & Giuseppe
This gorgeous, detailed and delicate design has been hiding from us!
I wanted to share with you that I have been a busy fairy recently – updating various bits of the website, so although the name of this design has been around a while, I feel silly to say the photos were somewhat hiding from the spotlight – because I felt I didn’t have any that showed it off properly!
An eye-catching, exquisite and delicate design – Captivate
I am making it my mission to change and make-over the images on the site, so you are able to see much more of the stunning detail my work is known for, so I thought I would start with this beauty (I hope you’ll agree this is a stunning design), so elegant and classy – and re introduce it to you.
I absolutely love the embossed, touchy-feely nature of the papers used
on designs like this one, there are several options to choose from and love hearts just say it all, don’t you think?
The crisp, white cardstock and papers seen here just add to the glamour and style of this gorgeous pocketfold invitation, which is a square one and created from subtly textured (always, there’s always something to feel in my work, no matt finish card to be found here!) cardstock also used throughout the inserts, so give a lovely crisp quality to the printing too.
For the happy couple who like the finer things in life
the lavish detail brought together in the careful creation is not for the faint-hearted.
Captivate Evening Invite
Also available in this collection you can get a full matching set of stationery, including Save the Date cards, matching Evening Invites as pictured, coordinating daytime stationery is also available with place name cards, table cards and a matching seating plan just to start you off.
Don’t hold back on these little additions and the attention to detail will shine through on your big day.
As always, any questions, please don’t hesitate to drop me a line,
The fun part of planning your wedding must surely be making it all about the two of you.
There are so many ways to put a personal ‘stamp’ on your special day and your guest tables is a fantastic place to start – after all they will be spending quite a while here after the ceremony!
Many couples just can’t decide what would ‘work’ as a name theme for their tables, and often end up taking the easy option of numbering them. But I think there are lots of fun ways to really make it your own, here are a few suggestions.
1. Names of places you have been together, that make special memories
Paris, London, New York… or town names like Nottingham, Loughborough- maybe they mean something to you. It could be a fun game for your guests to work out why they are special to you.
2. Favourite colours or shades of a colour
Lilac, Purple, Aubergine, Lavender, Orchid for example.
3. Precious gems
Diamond, Pearl, Ruby – This could also work to represent how many years you see together in the future, aim for Diamond, always!
4. Numbers, but not the traditional kind
I love the idea of a table lay out that uses numbers relative to the couple getting married and the guests can have fun working out what they mean. How many days you have been together, how many days between ‘going out’ and getting engaged, how many days you will spend on honeymoon, how many times you watched your favourite film… there are lots of fun ways to get this list together too.
5. Names of your favourite couples
They could be celebrities, or special members of your family like grandparents, great grandparents, couples in favourite films or plays.
6. Sweet treats
Name your tables after your favourite sweets. You could also incorporate this theme into your favours. Love Hearts, Dolly Mixtures, Liquorice Bootlaces.
7. Nature lover? how about favourite country walks you’ve done together
Tissington Trail, Aysgarth Falls.. or perhaps National Trust properties you like.
8. Planets in the solar system
I have done stationery going one step further incorporating constellation names!
9. Favourite films
Moulin Rouge is ours, it is so romantic and has some special memories for us too.
10. Something personal to you both
It could be quite random, what about places you have been to while dating, or maybe brands you both like to buy.
11. Cars you have owned together or between you over the years
Astra, Punto, Captur to name just a few of ours. I’m sure there are far more interesting but maybe your dream sports cars would be another idea.
12. Favourite animals
Think about what kind you like and if their pictures would look cute if used to really theme your stationery.
13. Family members
This can work for you if you want to remember lost loved ones, you could use their names for your tables. I have seen it done.
Names of pets you may have owned or favourite family pets.
If you are going for a glamorous theme how about Hollywood Movie Stars, or perhaps styles of shoe – Stiletto, Platform, Kitten Heel
16. Sci Fi theme
naming your tables after characters in Star Trek, or favourite sci fi films. Its a great way to get your other half involved if they are struggling to get excited with the wedding plans.
17. Favourite Books – characters and/or quotes
How about Mr Darcy, Elizabeth Bennet, Georgiana Darcy…. or Bridget Jones and Daniel Cleaver!
Again.. but what about in a foreign language to add romance to the theme… Un, Deux, Trois.
19. Bird watcher?
No problem, think of your favourite birds, or best places to go bird spotting.
20. Favourite chocolates
Now there’s a mouth watering theme with many favourites! My current favourite is Marvellous Creations!
Welcome to my little online home beautiful bride to be, a place full of sparkle and wedding stationery gorgeousness! I am the maker behind Fuchsia Fairy. It is my sparkly passion to create luxury handcrafted wedding stationery for beautiful couples, just like you, who are looking to create a real wow factor with their wedding. Because your stationery is more than just paper and ink, it is about bringing your personality into a creation that you will look back on in years to come with the same emotion. I absolutely love what I do and the couples I work with, I care so much about each and every order I lovingly handcraft and I would be delighted to help you on your wedding planning journey.
Lots of love, Jacqui
aka Your Wedding Stationery Pretty-fier!